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I once read a story about a man whom happened to be attending a conference and the speaker was very pro-women’s lib and very feminist.  During her speech she worked herself into a fervor over how a sexless marriage was nothing to be ashamed of, a woman shouldn’t feel obligated to ‘fix’ her menopause so she wouldn’t keep rejected her husband because sex suddenly hurt, and in fact maybe women shouldn’t even be messing with their hormonal cycles at all.  It is after all, part of the natural course of things.  

During the speech a woman in the audience hesitantly raised her hand, and drew it back down again.  She did this several times before she got up the nerve to stand and raise her arm up high.  When the speaker asked what comment the woman had concerning the topic, she went, “but I liked sex!�

I think every woman should be a feminist about her own personal values and beliefs about the way she wants to be treated by others.  Since every woman is different, we all tend to have different feelings about sex, too.  In general, modern medical view holds that sex should be a pleasurable experience.  If it’s not then something could be wrong medically or your partner isn’t doing it right.  Unless two people have gotten together for reasons other than love, such as a green card, sexless marriages tend to develop over time.  They can be the result of the aging process and menopause, especially if you ‘liked sex’ before and now you don’t because it’s uncomfortable. 

If menopause interferes with your enjoyment of sex, you should gather up the gumption to do something about it.  You may feel a little weird telling the doctor about your special marital problems, but he or she can help.  There are lots of tools in the medical arsenal to make sex enjoyable again and keep you from falling prey to the frustrations of a sexless marriage.

Posted by Hope on Thursday, August 30th, 2007 at 6:03 pm.