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It occurs to me that a lot of people out there have a rather leery view of marriage counseling. Why this is so, I can easily imagine. When a couple admits they are involved in marriage counseling it’s also an admission that they are going through a rough patch, having some problems, maybe even have a marriage on the rocks.
In today’s culture, something as normal and healthy as arguing is considered a bad sign. So it’s repressed and couples start going out of each other’s ways to avoid an argument. Meanwhile, tensions mount and eventually lead to an explosion, not always of the highly sexual kind. No, unfortunately these marriage explosions, result in someone sleeping on the couch and an even greater emotional disparity between man and wife. Sometimes this divide can be so ‘wide’ that neither partner has the tools to span the gulf, hence, the need for marriage counseling.
Sometimes it can be hard to see how major relationship issues can be related back to this gulf of misunderstanding between a married couple. You can’t see what it has to do with him cheating on her or her cheating on him? The evolutionary theory behind cheating aside, sometimes a person cheats just because there isn’t enough of a bond between themselves and their partner to keep them from wandering astray. The bond that by the way can be strengthened or weakened based on how a couple communicates with and understands each other.
It’s not always easy to accept help and I can see how it would be even harder to accept or seek help for your marriage. Why it would be like practically admitting fault in a relationship!! This is another misconception we seem to have with the idea of marriage counseling. You are not admitting fault, you’re just saying ‘hey, there’s something wrong here�.