Let’s face it, the Leave it to Beaver gender roles of the past are no longer working in today’s relationships. More and more women are getting college educations and taking risks that make them more employable and ultimately more successful than they have been in decades. No longer is the woman required to count on her husband to support her. Of course, if that is what you want, it can happen — but the point is it doesn’t have to.
What does this topic have to do with love and marriage? Well, it’s simple. Couples fight about money more than any other topic. Now, suddenly, there may be enough money, but it is the way the money comes in that makes the new point of friction. Men are generally raised to believe it is their duty to support their families. When a woman suddenly makes more than they do it can have a very emasculating effect. Ladies, while I applaud your drive and independence, it is our job as wives to recognize the signs and address this very touchy discussion with our spouses BEFORE it becomes a point of contention. Too often in relationships money is equated with power. In a strong relationship this cannot be the case. Put money back to what it is — just money. Use it to build up your family not tear it down. And remember, it can be difficult to make changes in belief systems and traditional habits. Be patient. Recognize difficulties. And, above all — talk it through.