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I was talking to a friend this past weekend who noted that she had found out her husband had maintained a friendship with a girl he knew when we were all in high school. She was livid, hurt, and all those things that make women emotional wrecks. Attempting to be the word of reason, I pointed out that she knew he had talked to this young lady because he shared stories about it with both of us from time to time. Her reply was “yeah, but they had lunch.”
Ladies, and even you gentlemen, having lunch with a member of the opposite sex is not an “instant cheating” situation. Men and women are required in our society to have friendships and interact with one another. Old friends, are important, regardless of their gender.
The point of this story is not that my friend is totally insecure in her relationship (which she is) but that there has to be a level of trust built in to a marriage and relationship that allows for platonic friendships. Sure, it’s hard, but it’s worth working on. That level of trust is something that carries over exponentially into other aspects of your relationship.