The situation is classic… the goody-goody girl attracted to the rebel guy. She loves the excitement, the spontaneity, the danger. He likes the challenge and the stability. Can it really work long term though?
While not all relationships are this obviously “opposite” many people are initially attracted to people who have qualities quite different than their own because of the excitement it brings to the relationship. And, yes, opposites can stay together… as long as neither one honestly expects the other to change.
Say you like to get up early and your partner likes to sleep in. You like it because you get those extra few hours in the morning to have some alone time. He likes it because he gets to sleep in until the last possible minute. He is an avid sports fan and you’re not. It works out because you use your Sunday afternoons to do your hobbies and he uses them to watch or play sports. It’s a great way for each of you to explore your own hobbies.
There are some areas where opposites may not be able to make it, however. If you have vastly differing religious views, there could be problems down the road, especially when you have kids. If you have differing parenting views and styles, you might have problems. If you have different ideas on how to spend, save and invest money, you might have problems.
So, if you’re attracted to an opposite, you need to look closely at the qualities you oppose each other on. Without expecting the other to change, can you live with this quality for the rest of your life? If so, you have a good chance of staying together with your opposite for the long-term.