My brother and sister in-law discovered that they were pregnant long before they were married. The news was surprising but both families rallied around them and we encouraged them to the very end. They were married in July and now on September 26, 2006 they have conceived their baby girl. The moment was supposed to be joyful and happy, but when he came into the waiting room crying we were all deeply concerned. The baby had amniotic fluid in her lung and she was going to the neonatal intensive care. The doctor’s reassured everyone that it was completely normal and that every twenty to thirty babies experienced this. The family was able to suck it up and be strong for the new couple that has seen so many other hardships through their relationship. Although none of us were able to go see the baby girl we stayed with the two of them. We encouraged them to be strong and told them that they would be playing with her in no time. The moment, however, is still very difficult for them because they have been anticipating this moment for so long and have still not been able to hold their baby girl.
Moments like these come around every once in awhile and no matter if you are a married couple or in a relationship, you must face these hardships together. No matter how devastating the situation, you must take the strength of your marriage and hold strong. If you are a married couple and your family is facing hardship, the best you can do is be strong for them from the strength that you gain from each other. You must encourage your married friends and family to do the same no matter what the hardship is.
Today, I expect to visit them in the hospital and to see baby Charlotte. I will reassure them that the whole family is there for them and that we back them all the way. This is sometimes all that you can do while your friends and family are in pain. Be strong and everything will be okay in the end.