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The wedding was beautiful and the honeymoon was even better. Now that you’re home and settled into your new place together, things seem to be a rocky. When we first got married, I realized that my husband liked to read in bed everynight. The problem was that he also like to have ice water and chew on the ice — one of my biggest pet peeves. He soon realized that I didn’t rinse out my drinking glasses before putting them in the dishwasher and they often didn’t get clean. I also couldn’t understand why he could set his soda cans right next to the recycle box, but never, ever put them in there.
Annoying habits abound when you start living with someone and it seems like right after a wedding they seem to be worse because you start realizing you’ve made a vow to live with “this” for the rest of your life.
Being open and honest is the best way to nip them in the bud before either of you get overly frustrated. For example, my husband now waits until I’m asleep before he starts eating his ice cubes. It may not be the best situation for him because it means that sometimes he’s up later than he wants to be, but in all honesty, that’s better than having an annoyed wife! Since my husband does the dishes most nights, I make an effort to rinse out my glasses before putting them in the dishwasher — it’s only fair since I don’t have to listen to him chomp on his ice every night.
The most important thing to remember is that your spouse is human. He or she did not just step out of a fairy tale or a fantasy and they will have annoying habits. Everyone does, even you. The thing to do is to realize how you would feel if someone did something that annoyed you on a daily basis — if you both go in with this attitude, you’ll both be respecting each other’s feelings and make living together much more fun!