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It is inevitable that there are times when you may feel as though you and your husband may not love each other as much as you used to or times when you overwhelm each other. There are a few ideas that you can use to keep your fires glowing although you feel as though you are only simmering. Typical situations that tend to have a negative effect on happy marriages include stress, fighting, and change. Here are a few tips to help eliminate some of these typical marriage problems.
1. Let Each Other Take the Floor: You know your spouse better than anyone and you often know what they are about to say before they say it. It is common for people who have been married awhile to interrupt each other because you already know what they are about to say. The fact of the matter is that nobody likes to be interrupted and the next time you feel that you are interrupting each other and not listening to each other grab the “conch.” Grab anything that will represent who has the floor and give it to each other when it is your turn to talk. It may turn out that they are not going to say what you thought in the first place.
2. Eliminate Clutter: Stress and tension in a relationship can be caused by having too much stuff. Stress and tension are created by clutter that is located throughout your house. This is an exceptionally stressful situation when you are a person who is compulsive about cleanliness. Have a garage sale and eliminate all of your unnecessary clutter. Also, buy two baskets for you and your spouse to put their knick-knacks, mail, etc. Take time on the weekends to clean them out together.
3. Change Your View on Change: You are always going to want to change something about your spouse and they will always want to change something about you. It is best to just accept that fact. To make it easier to accept that they can’t change everything about themselves make yourself a list of what bothers you and note how you can change your reaction to those actions.
4. Tools For Romance: Find a box or drawer and decorate the inside of it with pictures, massage oils, etc. These are your romantic supplies that you can pull out whenever the mood for romance strikes.
5. Remember Your Love: Place pictures of your spouse wherever you spend most of your time. Place them throughout your home, office or car. You will then have pictures to remind you of your love throughout the day.