Are you speaking your spouse’s love language? Does this sound as foreign to you as French?
A great book on how to show love to your partner is The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman.
Here’s a list of the five love languages and a summary of what they are: *Words of Affirmation: Using uplifting words. *Quality Time: Spending meaningful time with them. *Receiving Gifts: A well thought out gift can speak volumes. *Acts of Service: Doing chores or other things for that special someone. *Physical Touch: Caresses, hugs, other loving touches. (This is not limited to sex.)
Each person interprets love differently and may not read love in the same ways their partner does. This is why it’s vitally important for couples to realize what speaks love to their partner and practice those, rather than merely doing the things that would speak love to themselves personally.
Even if you don’t read the book, take the time to ask your spouse what says love to them and challenge yourself to perform such a task for them every day for a week. It could totally transform your relationship.
As for us? My language is gifts. My spouse’s is acts of service. The main language is love.