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Good romantic songs are instant classics.  They can even serve as inspirational fodder for your own love poems and songs to your partner.  Whether or not you are trying to impress, ask forgiveness, or just express your love and devotion in song form, knowing the lyrics to a good romantic song is an excellent idea.

Here’s my submission to you readers, called ‘I Love the Way You Love Me’ by John Michael Montgomery.

I like the feel of your
Name on my lips
And I like the sound of
Your sweet gentle kiss
The way that your fingers
Run through my hair
And how your scent lingers
Even when you’re not there

I like the way your eyes
Dance when you laugh
And how you enjoy your
Two hour bath
The way you convinced me
To dance in the rain
With everyone watching
Like we were insane

CHORUS
But I love the way you love me
Strong and wild, slow and easy
Heart and soul, so completely
I love the way you love me

I like to imitate ol’ Jerry Lee
And watch you roll your eyes
When I’m slightly off key
And I like the innocent
Way that you cry
At sappy old movies you’ve seen
Hundreds of times

CHORUS

And I could list a million things
That I love to like about you
But they all come down to one reason
I could never live without you

CHORUS

By the way, I found this and other romantic songs on a great site called, Romantic Lyrics.

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Before you take those marriage vows the two of your need to sit down and evaluate a few things honestly.  One of those things is your finances and how each of you approaches the topic. 

The way you handle money is one of the most comment problems for couples seeking marriage help.  By looking at this problem ahead of time you’ll have a much easier time down the road.  There are few ways you can prepare for the financial future of your marriage before you get married.

1. Sit down and have a good talk about money.  You’ll be running for marriage help counselors in no time if the two of you don’t have a good idea of how financially compatible you are before marriage.

2. Get your credit reports.  When you get married you’ll both probably think about large purchases like a house.  It’s a good idea for the both of you to know what’s on each of your credit reports, so there are no surprises in your quest for a large purchase.

3. Make a married budget.  When you are married you’ll both be spending for two.  Even though you may both have jobs, it’s easy for the money to get lost quickly.  Sit down with both of your sets of bills and figure out together what the budget is likely to do to your incomes.  This is also a good time to figure out who will pay what and how!

4. Pay up past due bills and taxes.  Getting married can also be a good chance to get a clean slate.  Rather than spending all of that money on a wedding, why not use it to catch up old bills and even (erk!), any past due taxes. 

5. Update your wills and trust funds.  It’s common to overlook these two important areas when you first get married or are even living together.  Make sure you both update your wills and any trust funds to include your sweetie in case the worst should happen. 

Following these tips can help you get off to a good start in arranging your finances before the wedding.  Hopefully, they’ll give you the marriage help you need to avoid any major arguments or snafus in the long run.

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We’re moving along in our essays to the idea of sex before marriage.  We welcome comments are you for, against, or neutral on the subject? 

The webpage Sex before marriage? Abstinence Works! encourages folks to post-pone sex until ater marriage based on Christian values.  They talk about the problem for both genders, the idea of finding sexual compatibility, and gives evidence in the form of research studies showing that it’s best to wait before having sex without love and marriage.

Here’s a brief excerpt:

Some thoughts for men
It can be difficult at times following sex abstinence. However there is a purpose in not having sex before marriage. The desire to avoid temptation produces discipline, strength, clear thought and most of all the character of love.

Women tend to focus on emotional needs where as men have more physical needs. However both genders obviously have desires that are emotional as well as physical. Finding ways apart from sex to relate to your partner will improve the relationship. Try using your time before marriage to learn how to please your partner emotionally without sexual activity.

A real man will look out for his partner’s best interests. This includes protecting her heart from the harmful consequences of sex before marriage. A real man will not pressure his partner into sexual activity. Many women find it hard to say no, even when they prefer to wait until marriage.

To find out the thoughts on sex, love and marriage for women you’ll have to read the webpage at: http://www.geocities.com/srose_ix/sexbeforemarriage.html then get back to us with your thoughts.

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We took a look at the idea of ‘couple love’ in marriage yesterday and how many cultures don’t see love in a marrriage as the most important facter.  In fact, some such as Indian culture feel that love after marriage is great, but its not a deciding factor in chossing to marry someone. 

Now, we’ll take a look at the idea that couple love and marriage have nothing in part and parcel together. The following is an excerpt from an essay in Anarchism and other Essays by Emma Goldman.  To read the full essay head over to Anarchy Archives

Marriage and Love

THE popular notion about marriage and love is that they are synonymous, that they spring from the same motives, and cover the same human needs. Like most popular notions this also rests not on actual facts, but on superstition.

Marriage and love have nothing in common; they are as far apart as the poles; are, in fact, antagonistic to each other. No doubt some marriages have been the result of love. Not, however, because love could assert itself only in marriage; much rather is it because few people can completely outgrow a convention. There are to-day large numbers of men and women to whom marriage is naught but a farce, but who submit to it for the sake of public opinion. At any rate, while it is true that some marriages are based on love, and while it is equally true that in some cases love continues in married life, I maintain that it does so regardless of marriage, and not because of it.

On the other hand, it is utterly false that love results from marriage. On rare occasions one does hear of a miraculous case of a married couple falling in love after marriage, but on close examination it will be found that it is a mere adjustment to the inevitable. Certainly the growing-used to each other is far away from the spontaneity, the intensity, and beauty of love, without which the intimacy of marriage must prove degrading to both the woman and the man.

Be sure to let us know what your point of view on the topic of love and marriage and of course couple love?

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Pure romance in marriages is not as common as most people think.  In fact many cultures today across the world don’t feel that the marriage between two people is the most important relationship in life.  Many encourage the family ties to remain strongest and several even find that ‘couple love’ between two people is an illicit emotion that shouldn’t be displayed in public.

You’ll find lots of great history on thed topic of pure romance in marriage at  StephanieCoontz.com.  This author has posted the first chapeter of her book, ‘Marriage, A History’ on the site for readers to get a taste of history.  Below is an excerpt from her first chapter.

In some cultures and times, true love was actually thought to be incompatible with marriage. Plato believed love was a wonderful emotion that led men to behave honorably. But the Greek philosopher was referring not to the love of women, “such as the meaner men feel,” but to the love of one man for another.3

Other societies considered it good if love developed after marriage or thought love should be factored in along with the more serious considerations involved in choosing a mate. But even when past societies did welcome or encourage married love, they kept it on a short leash. Couples were not to put their feelings for each other above more important commitments, such as their ties to parents, siblings, cousins, neighbors, or God.

The book further goes on to explain several examples of more recent couple love in marriages and cultures across the world.  Be sure to check out this book and feed your knowledge.

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Many of us experience rough patches in marriage or relationships.  It can send us running to the marriage help section of the nearest bookstore in trying to figure out if this relationship is doomed forever. 

Rather than feeling bad about yourself, sit back and take an honest look at your relationship.  Bob Narindra at Lovingyou.com has a list of signs that you may not be able to ‘save my marriage’  in his article How to Know When it’s Over. He states that there are three glaring signs that a relationship is over and no marriage help on the planet can save it. 

1. You catch your partner in the act of having an unforgivable affair.
2. Your partner uses physical violence against you.
3. You argue non-stop about everything. You can’t agree on anything.

Note how Narindra states ‘unforgivable affair’ in his first sign.  We all have differing levels of what we’ll tolerate when it comes to cheating.  You may not feel that finding your partner cheating on you is the absolute end to an affair. 

It may depend on who your partner chose instead of you.  If you can’t forgive the affair, then you can’t forgive the partner and the relationship is over.

No one, man or woman, should tolerate it when their partner uses physical violence or forcible restraint in a relationship as is shown by the second sign a marriage is over.  If this happens once, it’s likely to happen again, so get out. 

When you can’t be in the same room with your partner without fighting over something, this is a big sign that your relationship is over.  How can you bond and be together if you are always at odds?

For more signs that the relationship is in need of marriage help head over to Lovingyou.com and read all 10 signs to know when it’s over!

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Who knew it would be so hard to come up with romantic ways to propose to your sweetie when you plan on popping the question?  Sure, she’s been hinting around about it, but you’ll still need to wow her and provide her with a great proposal story for the friends, family and grandkids.

Simply-Romantic-Ideas.com has lots of great tips on creating that perfect proposal for your sweetie and hopefully soon to be fiancé.  You’ll find suggestions for everything from transportation to music to method of popping said question.  Here are a couple of quick romantic ways to propose from their site.

Take your partner to the top of a building or hill where the view is amazing and pop the question. Bring a picnic and some homemade hot chocolate to add to the surprise.

Take your partner to a really beautiful park at night time. Have tons of small white lights or candles (be really careful if you use candles always have someone there to monitor them) scattered all around and dangling from the trees for when you arrive.

Go for an overnight boat ride (rent one if you don’t have one already) and propose at either sunrise or sunset. Bring Champaign, munchies and extra blankets for cuddling.

You’ll find plenty more romantic ways to propose to your sweetheart at Simply-Romantic-Ideas.com.  If you happen to meet with success using one of these ideas, be sure to drop back in at this love and marriage blog to let us know all about it.

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This happy couple is finally getting married after 68 years of putting off their courtship!  85 year old Vernon Braun and Rita Miskimen finally got engaged in Roseville, Minnesota. 

The two love birds met near Faribault, Minnesota in 1939 and began their courtship.  They dated each other off and on for about a year.  Then, Vernon went off to patriotically serve his country in World War II.  Rita wrote Vernon letters during the four years he was gone.  When Vernon came home he decided to pop the question to Rita.

Being a modern young woman of the 40s, Rita wasn’t ready to settle down yet and told Vernon “Noâ€?.  “He asked me to marry him and I wasn’t ready,” Rita said, I hadn’t seen the guy in four years, I needed more time and he was ready to settle down.â€?

Vernon however was crushed and the two managed to lose contact and settled down with other people!  This happy couple became couples with two others in 1945.

They did live long, and have lasting marriages with their husbands and wives, but in 2001 Vernon’s wife died.  He recalled the way his relationship with Rita ended and decided he try to renew a friendship with her.  Vernon’s daughter managed to find Rita’s new phone number and got a hold of her husband. 

“He said Vernon Braun’s daughter called you today,” Rita remembered, “and I was absolutely mystified.”  Her own husband was ailing and she spent most of her time caring for him.  However, Rita did take the time to call back and began talking with Vernon again.

The two rekindled their friendship and when Rita’s husband died she ended up moving back home to Minnesota.  After what he felt what a suitable amount of time, Vernon came calling.

“Again, I wasn’t ready,” Rita said laughing.

But knowing how to be a good husband, at least potentially, Vernon didn’t give up this time.  He remained her friend and gentleman caller for over a year.  He even told her his dreams of marrying her.  “A year ago thanksgiving I told her what my dream was, for the rest of my life,” Vernon said. “She says am I involved and I said yes. No way she said.”

But one Saturday morning after Vernon had gotten down on one knee at least fifty times in the last year; Rita finally accepted his marriage proposal.  “The way I felt I knew I was still in love with her.” Vernon said.  This young at heart happy couple vowed they would never again separate for the rest of their lives.

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You can always spark up your marriage with romantic gift baskets for your partner.  Any evening can be made romantic with a sensual gift basket or two.  There are plenty of baskets out there to try too.  You can probably make a gift of a basket filled with goodies every week for a year and never give the same gift basket twice.  You’ll find a bunch of great baskets at Links2Love  http://www.links2love.com/gift_baskets.htm

If your partner is tense or in need of relaxing you can try the Day at the Spa Gift Basket for some romance ideas.  This gift basket comes with some a Chardonnay Wine and Chardonnay flavored lotions, bath and shower gel and more.  You make this basket even more special by being the one to massage those lotions onto your partner’s weary muscles.

Or if you are looking to get your partner in the mood check out the Kama Sutra Bedside Box.  This romantic gift basket is a veritable plethora of love goodies tucked into a glass and wood box.  You’ll find sweet, edible Honey Dust with a feather for application.  You’ll also find the Original Oil of Love, Vanilla Massage Cream and Lubricating Love Liquid.

However, if you’ve been with your partner a while and just want to give him or her something nice, try the Harlequin A Gift of Wine and Chocolate basket.  This romantic gift basket comes with two fine bottles of Merlot, signature chocolates and a keepsake magazine tote.  You’ll love indulging with your partner with these excellent wines and tasty chocolates. 

For more gift basket ideas be sure to drop in at: http://www.links2love.com/gift_baskets.htm

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I can tell you that being in love and marriage for many years often exposes one’s foibles and darkest secrets to their partner.  Hopefully, that marriage is one that can laugh at those foibles in each other as this romantic story is intended to do. 

You’ll get a quick laugh after reading this story about the eternal search for the perfect man.

Husband Mart
A store that sells husbands has just opened in Ottawa where a woman may go to choose a husband from among many men. The store is comprised of 6 floors, and the men increase in positive attributes as the shopper ascends the flights.
There is, however, a catch. As you open the door to any floor you may choose a man from that floor, but if you go up a floor, you cannot go back down except to exit the building.
So a woman goes to the shopping center to find a husband. On the first floor the sign on the door reads:
Floor 1 - These men have jobs.
The woman reads the sign and says to herself, “Well, that’s better than my last boyfriend, but I wonder what’s further up?”
So up she goes.
The second floor sign reads:
Floor 2 - These men have jobs and love, kids.
The woman remarks to herself, “That’s great, but I wonder what’s further up?” And up she goes again.
The third floor sign reads:
Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love kids and are extremely good looking.
“Hmmm, better” she says. “But I wonder what’s upstairs?”

You’re going to that to read the rest of this love and marriage romantic story over at LoveFateDestiny.com at: http://www.lovefatedestiny.com/funnylovestories4.htm

 

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